People who commit suicide because they’re being bullied only have themselves to blame …

If a person decides to kill himself or herself because they’re being bullied, it’s that person’s fault; no one else’s. If it’s a kid, maybe some blame can be placed on the parents or guardians if the kid wasn’t taught to consider less drastic options, but it still comes down to the kid. Even if it’s a young kid who doesn’t really understand the concepts of suicide and death, you can’t really blame anyone else.

Why not? Because bullying doesn’t cause suicide; no more than it causes homicide. Both have to do with personal choice. Even if a bully walks up and punches me in the face because he thinks I’m gay and I respond by shooting him in the head with a gun, it was my decision to shoot him in the head with a gun. I could’ve punched him back, told him I’m not gay or simply walked away.

It’s the same with suicide. If instead of walking away, telling him I’m not gay, punching him back or killing him, I decide to kill myself, that’s my choice. An outside “cause” would eliminate choice, but having that choice eliminates a “cause”. Since I had the choice not to kill myself, the bully didn’t cause me to do it. All the bully caused me to do was perhaps fall back from the physical impact of the punch.

A lot of bully suicide cases aren’t even physical. A lot of them, particularly the “cyber” ones, are purely psychological, which puts even less blame on the bully. In a sense, it goes back to Sticks And Stones; an old proverb that happens to be true for everyone, all bully victims included. Being hurt to the point of suicide simply means the victim was psychologically or emotionally fragile.

I was bullied. It was never drastic, but I was certainly bullied at times. Eddie McGowan pushed me down in elementary school. I hated moments like that, but they were a part of growing up in the real world. If it had gotten worse, like others joining in and taking my abuse to “the internet”, I would’ve weighed my options. Even at that age, suicide would’ve been on the very bottom of the list.

That’s because I’m not fragile. Other people obviously are. There lies the problem and, yes, the “cause” of their deaths. So shut-up, society, with all the political agenda nonsense, trying to charge bullies with murder and such. You should be strengthening the minds of their victims to let them know that, when it comes to finding a solution to the problem, suicide probably isn’t the best option.

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